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Domestic Violence Prevention




This wiki is made in dedication to Corinne DeMachio. (1968-1998),and also to anyone who lost their life or been hurt because of domestic abuse.



What is Domestic Violence?
Domestic abuse, also known as spousal abuse, happens when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and/or control the other person. An abuser doesn’t “play nice.” He or she uses fear, guilt, shame, and intimidation to wear their partner down and gain complete power over them. He or she may threaten them, hurt them, or hurt those around them. Domestic abuse that includes physical violence is called domestic violence.

Victims of domestic abuse or domestic violence can be men or women, although women are more commonly victimized. (Note: I will use the pronoun “he” for convenience only) This abuse happens among heterosexual couples and in same-sex partnerships. Except for the gender difference, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate. It happens within all age ranges, ethnic backgrounds, and financial levels. The abuse may occur during a relationship, while the couple is breaking up, or after the relationship has ended.

Despite what many people believe, domestic violence is not due to the abuser’s loss of control over his behavior. In fact, violence is a deliberate choice made by the abuser in order to take control over his wife or partner.

This wiki has been designed to enlighten and teach. As one who witnessed these things, first hand, I know how difficult it is to understand a few key points.

Violent Behavior is an Abuser's Choice!

Reasons we know an abuser's behaviors are not about anger and rage:

* He does not batter other individuals - the boss who does not give him time off or the gas station attendant that spills gas down the side of his car. He waits until there are no witnesses and abuses the person he says he loves.
* If you ask an abused woman, "can he stop when the phone rings or the police come to the door?" She will say "yes". Most often when the police show up, he is looking calm, cool and collected and she is the one who may look hysterical. If he were truly "out of control" he would not be able to stop himself when it is to his advantage to do so.
* The abuser very often escalates from pushing and shoving to hitting in places where the bruises and marks will not show (Stomach, kidneys, back). If he were "out of control" or "in a rage" he would not be able to direct or limit where his kicks or punches land (face, legs, arms).

Source: http://www.mvwcs.com/redflag.html



I can go into deeper detail, but that will just be too much to read. I'll just leave it at:

If you feel you are in physical danger immediately call 911 or the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224.


Remember! Domestic abuse affects everyone. Not just the victim. If there are children, they will be affected greatly for it. Also, if you're a parent and your child comes to you with a problem about mommy or daddy hurting them or threatening them, listen to your child, and take the appropriate action!




If you wish to be one that someone can talk to, simply ask in the comments. I'll put your name up immediately. If you wish to add your own personal experience, I'll get to work making a wiki page just for that.


Here are some people on Elfpack willing to help you, give advice or just be there when you need someone to listen.

[Neurotic Obsession]
[Tis gone but never gone]
[NyxianVanity]
[WonderTweek]

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2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Lol awesome! xD

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: o.o What would you do if you saw a bird hanging upside down?

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: I have before actually.
And I thought it was a bat at first xD

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: o.o perhaps it was..?

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: No, it a bird.
We have both around here so I know what they looks like xD

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: what hm? nvm Soo hows Aidan?

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: I be good.
Crazy tired though @_@

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: Whhyy??

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Runs in screaming* THE CANADIANS ARE COMING!!! THE CANADIANS ARE COMING!!!!!

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: OMIGOODYGOODYGOSHNESS!! HIDE EVERYONE! *jumps into the pool then realizes i cant swim* !!!!HELP! HELP! IM DROWNING!!!*thrashes around*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Gasps and helps her out*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: <img:http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/funny-pictures-cat-is-excited-about-ribbons.jpg>

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *gets pulled outta the pool* Thanks, OMG! A KITTY!!

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: <img:http://icanhascheezburger.files.wordpress.com/2009/05/funny-pictures-soon-kitten-will-be-a-butterfly.jpg>

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *attacks cat to get the ribbon* Ahaha! i win! *plays happily with ribbon*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: xD

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: A SOCK!! *attacks kitty to get sock* ahah! victory again!! *puts ribbon in sock*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: xD

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *steals a potatoe from raphie's cat and puts it in the sock, ties the sock up with the ribbon* NOw I Has A Weapon! Muahaha!

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *lies down on the floor* I'm tired.. u_u

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *lies on coutch* Me Too..-.-

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: I'm not^^ *Rolls around on the floor*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *throws marshmellows at rapheal*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: OH NOES! *Hides from ebil 'mellows*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *watches*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *smiles and eats one* ^^

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Runs around, arms flailing*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *closes eyes and starts dosing off a little*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Bops Zzyzx with inflatable hammer*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *starts snoring*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Frowns and gets real hammer*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: Eh! NOO!! *crawls over to aidan and shakes him* WAKE UP!!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Sits on him and holds hammer high*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *opens eyes* O_O AHH!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Hides hammer* Oh, you're awake^^

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *grabes hammer and throws it on teh coutch, and pushes him off aidan* HE'S ALIVE!! 8D!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Lands on the floor*...
*Smile falters.. eyes well up with tears*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: D: No! *huggles raphael*!! I'm sorry!! ><!

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *runs to him* Is you okie?! *hands you warm slushie*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: :D *Noms warm slushie and goes around looking for his hammer*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *feels bad and own eyes fill with tears* I'm such a Losercake!! *runs away and hides in Pillow fort* ><!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: :O *Runs to her, offering his warm slushie*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *climbs the really tall sheif and feels like losercake.*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Looks up at her* Juu no losercake. Juu is awesomest bomb tester. *nod*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *sniffles* really?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Nods again and offers pudding*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *takes the pudding and eats it* ^-^ Okies.. gets on edge of shelf* catch me?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Holds out hands and nods*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: *smiles and jumps into your arms* Yay!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Catches, but slushie gets squat and makes big mess*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: Oh noe! not the slushie!! ><!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Frowns* My slushie... is gawn...

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: Is sorry, but why didnt you put it downs?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Cause I'm stoopid...

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: lols ^^ awh well thanks for catching me, and the pudding! *hug* Goodnight!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Night night^^

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: O_O *missed a lot* ._.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: <.<

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *hums*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Beware the Danger Nom Nom Spiders *Runs around*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.o

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: They will eat juu and leave no evidence!

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *tosses jujubes everywhere* they can have them!

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Ohh *Runs to jujubes*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD chu like jujubes?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Nods, mouth full of jujubes*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *balances a big box of them on your head* :3

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Sits, eyes wide, chewing on jujubes*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Jujubes? Where!? *looks around*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Is mine!

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: But but....
*tears form in eyes*

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: what are jujubes?

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: oh...btw goodmorning everyone

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Chewy jelly candies.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Morning^^

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: mmm sounds good

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Morning girlie. :D

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: XD

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: anyone good at cleaning?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Is still eating jujubes*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *Slurps sluhie* Slushie? *hands one to [gypsy_soul]*

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: mmmm *slurp slurp* thank you aiden

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: :O *Offers jujubes*

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: thank you raphael

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: I feel spoiled...no one shares anything with me

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: *offers fruit smiles* anyone?

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *eats kiwi fruit*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Looks at the kiwi*... of all fruit.. this one looks the most like a disembodied testicle...

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Nomnom! xD

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: ...weird

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *Dances*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.o never thought about it.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: .>

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Licks the kiwi* >.>

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.o troubling image.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: XD I had to do that

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: If you say so :D

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Sucks on kiwi* Mmm.. so juicy..

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Too much. >.<

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Lmao xD

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Squeezes kiwi* Get it in my hair!
*Stops and looks around*... >.>
*Eats kiwi*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *hands you another* o.o

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: :O Juu wants an encore?

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Yeah!! *Cheers*

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: bye bye for now kind ppls....i am going to go clean

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: Byee *waves*

2009-07-18 [gypsy_soul]: *waves*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Bai^^ *Waves and goes back to sensually eating the kiwi* Ohh.. you're so juicy and tangy.. mmm...

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Wow ralfie.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: <.< *Looks at kiwi*... I think I'm gay...

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Thought you were bi. O.o xD

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: But someone threw a booby at me and it made me go eww.. Oo.. *Shrugs* I'm having a gay day^^

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD ok then.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Rolls around on the floor*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *pokes him with a stick*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Noms stick*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Man T.T I wanna go on WoW but I used up my time.. I have a card to play with.. but at the same time.. I don't want to use it yet..

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *tosses jujubes on him*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: JUJUBES!!!

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: *sits in the corner and plays with bubble wrap*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: :O *Runs to Zzyzx and watches*

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: :] *hands him a piece of cheese while popping the bubble wrap*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *plays with shiny rocks*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Looks at cheese*...
*Goes and finds a roll of bubble wrap* :O *Angel music*
*Wraps self in bubble wraps and skips happily outside to roll around on the lawn*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-18 [WonderTweek]: ..*eats the cheese*
*starts nomming the bubble wrap*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Is having fun rolling around with the bubble wrap clothes*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *turns into a little fox and curls up*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Comes back in and looks at the fox* PUPPY!

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.o *looks at ralfie*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *gets knife and runs to puppy* I wants a fox tail!

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.O *runs very fast away*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Trips and drops the knife*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *goes back and licks your cheek*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Huggles fox*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *makes cute fox sound*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Squeezes fix tight and puts collar on her* I name you Fufu

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: <img:http://www.gay-test.com/images/you-might-be-gay/gay-test.jpg> XD

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: I be your Fufu later sorry. Have to go for now.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Ok^^ C-ya

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Back. ^-^

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: wb^^ *Puts away guitar*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Wish i could play ANY instrument.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: It just takes practice^^

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Mm-hmm. *scratches my ear with my back leg and yawns*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *cuddles Fufu*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *nuzzles* by the way what does that pic say under gay test?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: "If you noticed the guy in the background, I have bad new for you."

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD nice. *licks your nose*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Huggles Fufu* <3 meh puppeh

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *does the cute fox sound again*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Awww! *Huggles tighter*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: o__o *feels left out*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Huggles Fuse too*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: YAY! *hugs for a moment then pushes away and watches TV* o.o

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Turns into a conch* I'm the best pet anyone can have^^

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]:  >.> |_| <<TV Uh huh..sure..now shhh! my shows back on *watches in fasination*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Makes conch noise*

2009-07-18 [fu**(fuse)]: =(

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *nibbles on a blueberry*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Is shaking with rage*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: O.o what's wrong ralfie?

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: Nothing.. just pissed off at a certain child.

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Ah. I see.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Turns back into a conch*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *huggles ralfie conch*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ *Makes conch noise*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *nuzzles*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^ *Attempts to cuddle.. has no arms.. fails*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: ^-^

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: ^^

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *attempts to feed conch a jujube*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Attempts to eat it*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: Aww. Close.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Turns back into a human and eats jujube* nom nom nom

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD by the way, it's because they're too busy never forgetting.

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Blink* Oo

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Huggles Rizel doll*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *huggles zetsu doll* ^-^

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Sings to doll* I’m happy when I can be with you ♡ I really like it when you scold me, too ♡ You’re wonderful even when you don’t smile ♡ Please grant my wish ♡ The way my heart raced for the first time that day... I want to keep feeling it forever. No matter where we go, just the two of us. No matter what, I want to feel that excited heartbeat. Hey, anyone who’s in love can use magic, you know. You see, every little thing can make us happy. I’m happy when I can be with you ♡ I really like it when you scold me, too ♡ You’re wonderful even when you don’t smile ♡ Please grant my wish ♡

Let’s do it ♡ for the first time! *Huggles doll tight*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *sings my happy song and nuzzles zetsu*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Falls asleep with doll*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: *attempts to feed my doll*

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Mumbles to doll in sleep* I love you.. my dearest..

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: XD

2009-07-18 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Jumps awake and put on Rizelmine*
*Sits with eyes glued to the TV, sucking thumb and holding Rizel doll*

2009-07-18 [NyxianVanity]: .>

2009-07-22 [gypsy_soul]: I have decided to delete myself from here

2009-07-22 [fu**(fuse)]: shut up!

2009-07-22 [WonderTweek]: Fuck..

2009-07-22 [fu**(fuse)]: who cares?!?

2009-07-22 [Neurotic Obsession]: *Blink*

2009-07-22 [fu**(fuse)]: hmm.. broke keyboard.. >___>..whoopies.

2009-07-22 [WonderTweek]: u_u

2009-07-22 [fu**(fuse)]: *laughs* Wow..

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